The phrases I don’t care and I don’t mind are very common and useful, but they can cause offence and/or confusion when Americans and Brits use them together. In the USA they mean one thing and in the UK they mean another.

When an American says I don’t care to a Brit, they can sound negative and apathetic. And when a Brit says I don’t mind to an American, they can appear to avoid the question, and answer another different question – which makes no sense. Learn how we use these phrases differently on both sides of the pond in this video.

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Don’t care – Don’t mind Video Transcript

Would you like tea, or coffee?
I don’t mind. I don’t care.

This video’s about a curious difference between American and British English.
I’m American.
Yes, Jay’s American and I’m British.
And this video’s about a family argument.
Yes. It’s about how Jay uses the phrase ‘I don’t care’.
No, it’s about how you use the phrase ‘I don’t mind’.
Do you want to tell them or shall I?
I don’t care.
Then let me begin.

When you offer us two alternatives, two possibilities, British and American people respond in different ways.

Would you like tea, or coffee?
I don’t mind.
I don’t care.

We both mean we’re happy with either alternative, but our responses are different. So same intentions but different responses – that can lead to misunderstandings.

Let’s go to the cinema tonight.
You mean the movies.
There’s that comedy with Sandra Bullock, and that one with Robert De Niro.
Which do you fancy. I don’t care.
You don’t want to go then?
No, I don’t care.
All right then. We won’t go.
What did I do?

In American ‘I don’t care’ means I’m happy with either possibility. You can decide because I like both alternatives.
If we say ‘I don’t care’ in British English, it means we’re apathetic – we’re not interested. ‘I don’t care’ sounds negative.

So what would you like for dinner? Spaghetti or an omelette?
Oh I don’t care.

I don’t care is often rude in British English. We’d say ‘I don’t mind’.

So what do you want for dinner?
Spaghetti or an omelette?
I don’t mind.

‘I don’t mind’ makes no sense in American English. It’s the answer to the question ‘Do you mind…?’ like ‘Do you mind if I have the last cookie?’ You can answer ‘No, I don’t mind’, or ‘Actually, I want it’. But if I ask ‘Do you want this or that?’ and you answer ‘I don’t mind’ you’re answering a question I didn’t ask, and it drives me crazy.

Would you like red wine or white wine?
I don’t mind.
But which do you want?

OK everyone, we’re finished. Let’s go and see that movie.
You want to see it?
Do you want to walk or take a bus?
I don’t mind.
Well make up your mind!
Why? You can choose.

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8 thoughts on “I don’t care and I don’t mind: An American and British difference”

  1. I don’t mind

    Without knowing why, this phrase has been a huge source of arguments and discontent over our four years together. We have joked about many other differences between our American and English but only today, with your explanation, have fully appreciated the differing perceptions of “I don’t mind” when offered a choice. Life will be easier.

    Thank you

  2. As an American I would disagree with this understanding of
    “I don’t care.”
    When used on it’s own it can be very rude. It depends on the circumstances.
    It should included a pre or post statement.
    It’s fine, I don’t care which one.
    Either is fine with me.

  3. As an American, I’ve never really thought of the phrase “I don’t mind” being confusing. Now that i read this, though, I see why it would be confusing. When it doesn’t matter to me which one when someone asks a question, I just say “It’s up to you.”

  4. Hey, is there a culture difference when British ask if they mind to do something and then they answer they do mind, but they actually don’t mean they mind?

    Ex: Would you mind buying your ticket
    Yes, I would

    but then they just go a head and pay for a ticket?

    I’m confused over a meme because I could have sworn that phrasing in the UK was slightly different with that and I’m just in a disagreement with someone over it. Hope to get an answer soon!

    1. So in this case, if the person says “Yes I would” it means they would prefer not to buy the ticket. If they buy it anyway that doesn’t conflict with the statement that they mind. It only indicates they are buying the ticket under protest so to speak. When an American asks a Brit, do you prefer red wine white wine, and the Brit answers “I don’t mind” meaning either is OK, the American is confused. I don’t mind is not answer to a question requiring a choice. The American would understand “either is OK for me” or simply “red” or “White.” But I don’t mind is the answer to a different question, not a question of choice. I hope that explains things. This is Jay writing back to you.

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